Written by : Hernirekha Hussin
According to Levine (2005) temper tantrums is an uncontrolled anger. Temper tantrum is also known as crying ranting, shrieking and this emotional distress always happen in children. Almost 80% temper tantrum happens between two to fou years old children and this tantrum often occur differently between these children.
Golden (2003) said children with temper tantrum eager to show aggressive behaviour to themselves and people surrounding. They love to throw things, hurt people nearby when they are screaming but this behaviour will disappear shortly and never exceeds more than 5 minutes or 10 minutes.
Children who have temper tantrum believe it is the way to release their anger, this is because they do not know how to control and express their emotion in the right way said Golden (2003). This emotional distress does not have any specific treatment as a remedy to overcome it but there are a lot of techniques and strategies that can be used to handle or control this sort of anger.
Children aged between two to four years old are the most with temper tantrum because of trivial reasons such as failing to wear socks, not knowing how to play toys and having a mother who occupies them with many rules to follow. Among the reasons that lead to such behavior are that children of this age tend to easily feel frustrated and give up because they are lacking at the problem solving skills. Nonetheless, the extent of these children’s vocabulary and social development progress are still at a low level hence making them weak at expressing their feelings.
Techniques to overcome temper tantrum
At two years old, children need to be taught how to handle their emotion. This is because this age is the most suitable time for them to learn something new with ease. As parents, there are many things to learn when teaching children techniques to control their emotion by Oesterreich (2003). Parents need to remain calm when facing children with temper tantrum as they are the role model for them to control their emotion before they apply the techniques to control their child’s anger. There are four methods that could be applied by parents to overcome temper tantrum in their children:
- Distract children with something that interest them. Children are easy to lose focus by distracting their attention, children might forget the reason they were ranting earlier.
- Take your children to a quiet or private place and avoid scolding them but instead give them enough time to calm down before talking to them.
- Ignore them. Children throw tantrum to get attention from parents. Children will stop throwing tantrum when parents ignore their behaviour.
- Comfort your children by tightly hugging them when they start to hurt people and themselves.
The most suitable time to talk and teach children to control their emotion is when they are calm and relax. Children need to be explained to in the right way on how to control emotion. This can avoid negative emotional distress in future.
Temper tantrum is a part of children when they are growing up. This happens because they lack skills to express themselves. Hence, they need to be taught the right way to control their emotion. Adults need to understand these children emotion and discuss it with them. Parents and teachers need to unite in explaining to children by using the simplest language for them to understand how to control their anger said Griffiths (2012).